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Originally Posted by ThisWayOut
Dear T,
Dare I say I care about you? I was thinking this morning, than I want to try to express that, but I don't know how or what my motivations are around it really. Yeah, I talk about caring about people all the time, but I never say it TO them (except maybe the wife and the mama)...
So much worry has come up around your recent absence. I kinda want to talk about it, but I don't want to come off as "making it about me". The thing is though, it's triggered a bunch of stuff about past losses and my own inability to be there for my clients that time... I still have not processed that, but I alsodon't want to waste what little time we have left on it. :/
Gah! This is stressful and frustrating and... Can you please be back Tuesday and can you maybe still have that time open and can you call to tell me you have that time open and I can come if it's not too much of a rush?
:/  |
When my T (MC) had to cancel on us at the last minute about a month ago, that, combined with some stuff that had happened the past few weeks (like getting an emergency message during our session, generally seeming sad and not himself), I had the same question of how to express caring without being too intrusive.
When he finally called to reschedule us, at the end of the conversation, I was just like, "I hope you're doing OK. I get the sense you're going through a rough time right now." He just said "thanks," and I was like, "I'm not trying to pry, so see you next week." I felt like that way I was showing I cared without literally saying "I care about you." (Though I still overanalyzed it in my head, as I do, and was afraid he'd say something next time about it--he didn't.).
So you could just say something like that maybe. Hope you get to see her next week!