hi birdseed.
it is very challenging living with someone with mental health issues. most important is taking care of yourself. if he refuses to stay on his meds, there is no reason for you to have to take the abuse. MI or not, he could do something about his issues and chooses not to it sounds like. take care of you. he is choosing to be miserable by not taking his meds, you do not have to choose to be miserable also. choose joy. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome