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Originally Posted by Shadix
I guess I should rephrase this. It's not so much that I slip up once, it's that I keep saying and doing things that give people the impression I am dumb. My experience has been that once people get an idea like that about you, it tends to stick. I don't really like being friends with people who think I am dumb, even if that's what I am, because dumb people are looked down on in society.
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And everybody with social anxiety does this. I know I'm not dumb, but I do think that I can seem childish and weak because I'm too self-deprecative and apologies too much (despite the fact a Johari's window experiment had everyone I know use words like 'independent' and 'mature' to describe me). Like you, I feel that once people have noticed that I'm childish and weak then they'll never forget that no matter what I do so I'll always have that label in their heads.
This is complete bollocks by the way, people are far more interested in themselves and do forget first impressions (despite what they say).