Almeda, it took me a year also, to speak of the unspeakable! It's now 2 years and I still struggle. I too have times when I just cant find the words. I don't say "I don't know", I don't say anything. The words get "stuck" and I just sit there staring and feel completely inadequate at the end of the session. I have found that writing things down and giving it to T to read has been helpful. I think there will always be some resistance there though!!