SpringStar,

My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Reading back on all of your posts regarding this subject, it's pretty clear that he doesn't have the relationship as his priority. He sounds like he wants it all and relationships don't work that way. For many years, I let my husband do whatever he wanted to do, never (hardly ever) asked for help or what my needs might be. But, a relationship is a two way street and each must take responsibility for their actions. He clearly hasn't.

You listened to your gut and having second thoughts is only natural. During a time of longing, it's easy to forget all the things that led up to this. Maybe re-reading this thread will help to remind you of why you are doing what you are doing. It's easy to forget the hurtful times when one is going through a difficult time of loneliness.

Those times weren't easy for you, as they wouldn't be for anyone, and althought this time in your life is hurtful and difficult, you know that this is leading you to a healthier, more fullfilling road.

A mate should be a companion, not convenient.

Best, Songbird