Hello Inny,

It is obvious that you are really struggling with these things and have a lot of support here. I'm glad for that because it allows you a different perspective.

If I may add, if you want to stay with your boyfriend and feel accepted by his family - I just don't know if that is possible given the cultural differences. In my experience, even different family traditions within the SAME culture can cause a rift between partners. Those are things that make a person feel comfortable and changing them is very difficult to do.

You may love your boyfriend and he may love you but changing his family may not be possible. You are working so hard at trying to make this work, why aren't they meeting you half way?

I sincerely wish you happier times.

Songbird