Yes it feels wrong that we have to through this and I can tell you it is going to be harder, until you can accept that it was his doing and not your fault some men just think that they can behave that way.

I came home from grandmother funeral and found my husband (now ex) in bed with another woman.... I had two young children 3 and 18mths. I was completely devastated. It’s a long story. But I total understand what you are going through. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt so sorry for myself and the children....I thought that everyone knew but me...I couldn't go out in public. It was a terrible time. I lost too much weight down to skin and bone, it just ate me away.

My whole being felt betrayed and I couldn't understand why this had happened to ME...!!!!!

I kept asking myself what I did wrong...!

It wasn't until I left the whole situation...relocated 4hrs away that I finalized realized it wasn't me but him. It has taken years to rebuild my self esteem.

I had to look really deep inside myself and find the courage to make my life worth while.....the children helped of course.

Life is a battle sometimes, and many things are sent to try us......I sure hope that when I reach the end I will find out why..!!!

Until then keep soldiering on.

Hell my life has just fallen apart again........ My partner of 7 yrs just called it quits. I don't have all the answers..... I just wanted to let you know I understand and I'm here for you.

Things that helped me were I kept working and meeting different people, I kept my family close and I tried to find things that make me happy. It took allot of tears and some bad decisions. I have just finished my post-grad and I have fantastic job.

I work with artists and they are the best..........to them there is not right or wrong answer, no judgmental opinions and anything goes, they are also really intellectual, which is quite refreshing...you know....... no gosip.

I think a lot of people on PC would really enjoy interacting with these kind of people as you really don't feel alone or weird for being who you are....sorry just rambling now.

But I do hope you find piece with in yourself.

GodBless and take care
SpringStar