If the therapist was attempting some kind of confrontation/paradoxical/tough love schtick and the client received it as a gut punch, it's therapist's responsibility to realize his royal ineptitude and rush in with apologies and correction. Sounds like the therapist has failed miserably here.

Dancinglady, I think the bottom line question is whether this therapist has been a problem or a solution. Assuming treatment is voluntary, therapy isn't servitude, the therapist has no crystal ball or omniscient understanding of your life or future, and just because someone says something doesn't make it true.