I had a conversation with my therapist about this. I had been seeing him for five years and was so afraid of rejection that I couldn't ask...So this is how I did it.

I told him I needed to ask him a question but I didn't want him to answer the question until we thoroughly talked about it. That way if his answer was no I would know why and I wouldn't take it personally. We spent most of the appointment talking about how hard rejection is for me and how hard it was to ask that question. Which I did ask at the beginning after my speech.

My one on one T is not a hugger. He told me that and told me how much he liked me and how much he liked working with me. I feel like I still need to talk about it with him more but I felt good about how connected to him I felt afterwards.

My group T does hug me and will hug me whenever I ask. I also crave touch and feel like it's very important.