I am in a place in my life where I' m questioning what is a marriage. I've vented in the PTSD area (my husband is a lesbian) but want to ask a more defined question. Is it normal for a marriage of 10 years not to have casual touching and love making?

Is this a normal progression as the US television show "Married with Children" demonstrates. The wife wants to make love and the husband complains about having done it last month. Every part works and we don't have arthritis or back pain so I'm wondering. (More details of my complex problem is in the other post.)

Am I expecting too much?

Should I be content with the positives parts of having him around?

Another part of me wonders do I have a room mate and not a husband.