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Default Mar 14, 2015 at 11:06 PM
 
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Trust or learning to trust first starts between infancy and 18 months.
If we pass successfully through this stage we have some kind of confidence that life will be basically ok... then we are ready to start the next stage of life.

If we fail to experience trust we turn inward bc we are frustrated bc our needs are not met... then I guess we move forward onto the next stage of life without the learned skills of trust and poorly equipped for early childhood.

I want to trust people and wanting to trust means i think they are worthy, but i simply cant allow my self to be vulnerable like that. I know that sounds obnoxious or rude but i don't want to put my hope and faith in someone i like or care about only to be let down by them.
I don't want someone i like or care about to let me down bc thats the past emotions coming back to haunt me, so i depend on myself which puts no undue pressure on anyone.

This all goes back to parents and caregivers where the infant wants and has the urge to trust, but to be let down time and time again by loved ones takes its tole quickly and turning inward is the new learned behavior (depend on yourself).. plus i'm not sure how this fits in but i don't want good people i care for to fail.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/avoid...st-people.html

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Last edited by Snap66; Mar 15, 2015 at 12:44 AM..
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