As we get older and our lives changes people don't have as much time for friendships. I'm not married, I don't have children and right now I'm not working. That means I have a lot of free time! How often is it realistic to expect to see people you consider a real friend? I have one friend I saw once in August last year because I planned a girls outing. She will respond if I text her but otherwise doesn't contact me. Another I saw once in 2014 but I talk to on the phone once or twice a month. A 3rd I've seen twice since last summer and talk to once a month. Finally a 4th that lives out of state. She monitors all her incoming calls and usually won't answer if I call her. If she's having a problem she'll email and call me and get upset if I haven't read the email to prep for the phone call I didn't know was coming.

I get that these people are busy with their lives but is this what friendship looks like? I feel frustrated but I don't say anything because I'm trying to be understanding and a good friend.