I can feel a lot of frustration in your posts. That's a really tough situation. No, I don't think that "Married with Children" shows a normal progression of a marriage relationship, but I think that when you are in that situation, it seems like it's probably universal, either that or it seems like you are all alone, maybe alternating from one end to the other. If you and your husband love each other, then this is definitely something you guys need to talk out, and work out some compromise that both of you can live with. Sometimes one or the other partner just gives in all the time, and that isn't fair, and it leads to resentment and hard feelings.

I'm glad that he wants to talk about your issues together. Sometimes talking about it with a therapist might be best, so that you both for sure get a chance to be heard and understood. It sounds like he cares about you. I have one concern though. Did he read your post here, or did you tell him about how you felt? Your second post just hints of censorship, or being told what to say. That's another problem by itself. It does sound like you mean a lot to him though.

I just wanted you to know that I don't think it is just a "typical thing" for one of a couple to want sex and the other hardly ever to, and I think it is something you should work on, but I do think that most couples have some difference they need to work out in this area, and I know that you are not alone either - there are others who are in situations like that.

How long have you known that he was a woman? That's quite a shocker, isn't it! I don't know what to say about that one, but I can see how it could tie in to the other problem.

Best to you!