I am not sure how to ask this so I will just put it out there......perhaps for most people this isn't a problem.. but it GRRRRR... is for me.

I get taken advantage of and I am tired of it.. what can I do to help the situation.. it particularly happens when I am not feeling well when my ED is out of control... but I just have to face it... it happens all the time.. I get so angry with myself for not handling things well.

Latest... painter who I had a contract with claimed he meant only the outside of the porch brickwork, not the inside... so it cost me an "arm and a leg" for just about 1/2 of what I wanted done... I had a contract where it said "porch brickwork".. it is what we discussed doing both inside and outside but he refused to do inside.

This one really hurt: I responded to a woman in an ad on craigs list asking for help with finding baby items for a new program that her church was setting up to help teenage girls.. so I run all over town picking up donations (with just all kinds of construction going on and I get lost at a drop of a hat) and really all I wanted to do was help organize cause driving is not my forte.. but I felt so bad for this woman that she said her car just broke down and now she couldn't do the pick-ups... well, what an idiot I am - it was a ruse to get clothes for her own family... which if she had just been honest - there would have been people that would have helped her.

I could go on...

I asking for helpful comments - do you have a list of questions that you ask people before you help or contract wih them? I've owned a house for years but I try to do as much as I can because when I hire someone it is a disaster...how do you enforrce a contract or an agreement?

and not helping people is not an option for me... I will continue on but the last one... grrrr...

Thank you for all that respond.. I would really like some pointers...

Thanks... freewill