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Originally Posted by Willowtrees
My friend thinks I have DID because I have acted as other people with other names and their own identity, opinions, etc. But I feel like it is a delusion. If I do have DID, I dont feel like treating it like its literally other people is healthy. I feel like I should accept all of the parts as me. But my friend thinks trying to do that right now would be too stressful. He thinks I should let whatever happens happen without fighting it, bc he thinks it is helping me in some way. He wants me to wait for a professional before I try to take on such a big task. I have been looking for a dissociation professional for two years, i even moved to have better chances, and i havent found anyone yet.
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your friends idea to treat your alters as literally other people and your wanting to treat them as parts of you....
the way you want to deal with this is actually how most if not all treatment providers in the USA work with DID. you see treatment providers in the USA have learned that past treatment approaches like calling out of alters and enforcing separation, enforcing the alters to be literal people does more harm then good and can cause things like false memory syndrome, false alters to please the therapist behaviors with in the body and internal system. so most if not all treatment providers now work from the premise that the alters are the dissociated states of mind, part of the whole....
the way my treatment provider explained this therapy approach to me is that a person is born one whole person with one whole personality (thoughts feelings, emotions, memories...). then through the use of dissociation and extreme traumatic events as a young child that whole personality (thoughts,feelings memories....) become dissociated separated into compartments (some people call it walled off, rooms, stuffed down....)
then through treatment (therapy and other treatments to address what ever problems/issues there are) the walls come down and each part integrates/merges back into one whole personality again.
an example used by my therapist is the glass of water. it starts out as one cold glass of water. then trauma happens (dump half the class of water in another container and one glass sits in the sunshine.) but then healing happens (warm/room temp glass of water is added back to the cold water and it becomes one whole glass of water again. nothing is lost, just each part is merged back together.