Welcome to Psych Central (PC) noodlesenseipai. Sorry to hear you have experienced incidents of abuse. It is not your fault that you are suffering from bedwetting. It is often a symptom of being physically and emotionally abused. It is not your fault that your mother has stress.

Since you are 14 you may have to live with the situation for the time being, but there are things that might help. See if you can get an air freshner that claims to rid odors. Cleaning the mattress or covering it in plastic or getting a new mattress would be a help. See if you can get plastic bags to put soiled clothes or diapers in and seal them.

They have adult diapers for women. Having those could help reduce the embarrasment and mess. See if you can get plastic bags to put soiled diapers in and seal them.

If it is possible to get a therapist, that could help sort out the roots of their life.

Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

There are articles that go into more detail about coping
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