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Originally Posted by Cthrume
What troubles me is this - "he cheated on me for the first 6 months of our relationship" (did you get a reason?) "I found out" (did he tell you or did you discover based on evidence found?), "nor is he going to have the conversation every few months or weeks whenever I have a breakdown" "he doesn't seem to have much remorse for the damage he caused" (a biggie for me possibly deal breaker), "He has told me several times that I need to let it go or move on". He said he would do anything to make it all better for you but when you need to discuss your fears he drops the gavel and says "NO TALKING ABOUT IT - SUBJECT IS OFF LIMITS!". How convenient for him to make up all the rules and expect you to obey them or "move on". He must feel he has some power over you (sounds like you've given him that too).
Why would you think that you are the cause of his cheating? Is there any basis to that? Not looking for a response to any questions, just postulating. No one knows all the facets of your relationship. Just be careful, whatever you do. Sorry you are dealing with this.
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Thank you! I found out on my own and then he came clean, he was talking to a couple different girls on the internet and sharing inappropriate texts and pictures with them. He isn't very remorseful, and that is hard because I feel even though it's been a year he should still be trying everyday to make things better. I try daily and I have been faithful since day one. I have given him a lot of power over me and I don't understand why, I feel weaker than I ever have in my life. I don't know how to get through this, it's like an emotional roller coaster. I shouldn't feel the cause of the cheating to be my fault, we have his daughter full time and I take care of her like my own (he works out of town a lot), we have a very active and fulfilling sex life, I take care of our home there isn't any areas that he should want more...so I just don't understand...Just in the pit of my stomach I always feel like something shady is going on....Thanks again for listening to me...