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Old Mar 15, 2015, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by kelly8896 View Post
It’s hard to continue in a relationship when the trust you had is destroyed. I believe that it is not up to you to get over it, it is up to him to make you feel comfortable and secure in your relationship since he is the one that betrayed it. That will take time and effort. Yes, You have to be willing to forgive. So ask yourself, what can he do to make you feel secure and confident in your relationship going forward? Really be honest with yourself here and then express to him that you are doing your best to trust him and want the relationship to work, but you feel you need this (tell him specifically what you need) from him in order to feel secure and confident that the relationship is headed in a positive direction and so the trust can be rebuilt.

I’d say if he is willing to put forth the effort in giving you what you need to rebuild the trust, then give it a chance, but if his attitude is that you just need to get over it, then I expect your insecurities and trust issues won’t ever go away and you need to find someone else. Someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated, with respect, love and consideration and who is willing to put forth the same amount of effort into a relationship as you are.

Good luck. Remember to stand up for what you feel you deserve and except no less.

Thank you! I try to stand up for myself and then he twists and turns things around that makes me feel like I'm making no sense and it's all my fault because I'm bringing it up again. I've mentioned before that I feel like I am weaker than I ever thought I was. I trusted him by moving in with him with my 10 year old son, and it feels like he's taken advantage of my trust and good heart....He continually says I just need to get over it.....so I doubt that he is ever going to change...