In Christmas 2004 our family had Christmas with each other for the first time in like 20 years.It did not go well. We stayed at my sisters house. She started fights with everyone. She verbally abused me infront of everyone including her 2 kids.Her oldest daughter even called me names.Now my brother Scott thinks we should try it again. I say hello no. Since 1989 i have been around my sister a total of 4 times and the reason for that is because she can not be nice to me and others. When i became an adult i started sticking up for myself etc.The 4 times i have been around her in over 18 years. Has showed me she has not changed. But infact has become more abusive to others. My mom and Scott tell me. But she is your sister. I remember growing up. Not having a normal sister relationship with her. So to be honest. I have never missed being around her. My mom acts like her to and i don't have much to do with my mom either.Actually none of my sibilings have much to do with my mom. The only time my sister talks to my mom. Is when she needs money.My sister complains to my step mom about how my mom acts. The thing is.My sister is the same way my mom is. My counselor Diane told me i have the right to be happy and if that means not being around family.Than so be it. I admit i get jealous when i see family's having fun. I wish i could have that.