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Do you still feel like you need to protect your T?

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No, not at all. I gave him some of my yuckiest abuse memories from childhood and he handled them with no problem. Stuff from my more recent years may not be painful or fun, but I don't feel the same way, like I am inflicting horrible stuff on him, rather just sharing things that are painful to me. We have left my past and are focusing on the present and future right now, as I try to solve my relationship problems. Someday, I may return to the past in therapy, as we just did a quick tour of the low points, but for now, we are pretty goal oriented in solving the couples dilemma.

If nothing else, EMDR is quite an experience and maybe worth doing a couple of times if only just to know what it's all about (intellectual curiousity).