Well, then you know plenty about organizing your own survival. It sounds like you were a good influence on him. So he got his act together, after he got involved with you. Well, you can be proud of helping him get to where he is. So, now, he has been somewhat helpful in you getting to your goal. He should be glad to do that.

So, maybe, once you are out of school, all this discord will blow over. Who will do the cooking then?

Lots of couples go through tough times, when they just about can't stand each other, and come out of it to have a good, close relationship. I hope that happens for you and your husband. If it doesn't, it sounds like you could consider other options and do just fine.

You've been asking posters on this thread to explain why your husband is acting this way. Really, no one is in a better position than you to figure that out. Sometimes a person will act just as bad as he thinks he can get away with. Your husband thought he could get away with exiling you to other people's couches. And he did get away with that for awhile. I hope you have been inspired by the posts here to expect better for yourself.

Get through the next two months and on to your full time job. Then, if being passive doesn't get you the treatment you have a right to expect, then try getting irate. What have you got to lose? Actually, experts in behavior say that what we all need to learn is how to be appropriately assertive, which is not a matter of being either passive, nor irate. Maybe take yourself a class on that.