Hi AnxiousGirl...

Some suggestions:

- Don't feel like you need to 'get over' anything in relation to this life experience... Sometimes the conceptualizations that we use aren't all that functional and identifying with them can make us feel like we're not behaving or reactiong 'the right way' - and that isn't helpful... So rather than telling yourself that you need to 'get over this', why don't you set the goal and intention to allow yourself the necessary time to grieve the passing of these individuals, and to aim for internalizing increased 'acceptance' for what transpired, and to gradually make progress healing from this challenging life experience. You can't rush this process so please don't beat yourself up if you don't experience immediate relief & progress - you know?

- Right now your memory of these individuals may be overwhelmingly influenced by the details of their passing, and thoughts of their temporary absence in your life (which causes hurting/suffering). That is understandable and natural. Please try to encourage yourself to spend time contemplating and reflecting upon all the positive attributes and qualities that you appreciated about these individuals, focus on the positive ways in which they influenced you - this will evoke very important heart-based feelings of gratitude, appreciation, and respect. These are healing emotions and will help to counteract the distressing emotions associated with the hurting/suffering surrounding their (temporary) absence in your life. So it's like over time, when you think about them again, instead of focusing on their passing or absence, you will immediately connect with those heart-based healing emotions associated with gratitude, appreciation, respect, love, etc... I went through this while I was coping with the passing of my Mom...

- You can use writing to help you process your emotions. When you are hurting and feeling sad, rather than trying to avoid those feelings or thinking about the thoughts which cause you distress - decide that you are going to write down exactly what's going through your mind and what you are feeling. You don't even have to save what you write - just the act of writing it down (or typing it out) is therapeutic and cathartic, because it allows you to consciosly acknowledge your internal emotions & feelings - and this helps you to process that emotional energy in a healthy manner. You can spill your heart out, read over what you have written - this will help you view yourself and this process of healing with a HIGHER awareness.

- Look into 'self help' type texts that revolve around grieving and healing from the loss of a loved one. The 'right book' in your possession can be life-changing and it may be really therapeutic for you to read about other peoples' accounts going through the grieving process and how they eventually found acceptance and brought about healing. This will help provide you with a constructive mental framework to work with and provide affirmation that you absolutely can (and will) work your way through this and restore balance internally. You will become so much stronger from having navigating through this period of your life.

Hang in there.