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Originally Posted by Shadix
Wow. You obviously don't know much about me and didn't read or understand my post.
I am not disrespectful to women. I don't interact with that many girls, but the girls I do know through friends think I am really nice.
I believe in gender equality and I gave feminism a chance. But it became clear to me that most feminists are intolerant bigots. Tell me, why is it that almost every feminist seems to have an intense hatred for men who date younger women? You know, many of these feminists even admit that they don't think it's as wrong for women to date younger men. Oh and I'm not just talking about female feminists. So actually, it is feminists who are hostile towards me.
Really? Because I have met girls before whom I wasn't interested in initially, but then when I talked to them more, I became interested. Are you suggesting that women are all shallow and only base their attraction off of guy's looks?
But either way, I am just being friendly with this girl. I am not even trying to ask her out. I didn't even "approach her" I just asked her a question about her ethnicity when she asked me about putting music on in the multipurpose room and then the next time I said "hey how's it going". I am just asking about if I should be saying hi. Typically when I see someone I know at the gym, I say hi to them. Even her friend, who works at the gym, always says hit to me when she sees me. It is just a bit odd to me when she ignores me because I am not sure how I am supposed to react. I am paranoid that somehow I am the one who is expected to say hi and maybe I am coming off as rude. But then there are people like you who think that saying hi would also be disrespectful. It's just really confusing.
Did you read my post? Like I said, I noticed her looking in my direction multiple times before, and this was before I even realized that I think she's cute. I don't think all women act the same way when they like a guy. She actually seemed pretty friendly when we talked though. Do you really not think it's plausible that she's shy? Do you think every girl is super confident and openly shows interest when they like a guy?
This is just a conjecture, but I am thinking you don't want her to be interested because you think it is wrong for a 27 year old guy to date a 19 year old girl. Am I correct?
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No, you are not correct. I could care less about the age difference. I have no problem with that. I have a problem with your mysogeny and lack of understanding about what feminism is actually about. You throw out rude and disrespectful stereotypes about things you know nothing about. Like I said, feminism is about gender equality. All of the stereotypes and negativity you are projecting are your own prejudices about feminism/women. You also continue to assert that if a woman does not want to be approached by men in public then she is rude or not giving you a chance or shallow. It's a daily chore and inconvenience to be approached by men just about everywhere we go, multiple times a day. Sometimes, we just want to work out, or buy toothpaste, or pick up our laundry. Either we have to be friendly when we don't want to and get delayed by stopping to chat, or we get called rude or shallow or unfriendly because we don't want to. It's a lose-lose situation. Men just don't understand this because it doesn't happen to them in the same way. There's this idea that women are supposed to make themselves available to men who want to get to know them-- but, sometimes, we just don't want to get to know anyone. It's not personal, we just don't have the time, energy, or desire to get to know new people every day-- male or female. Not wanting that isn't being a "b----" or a "princess"-- it's having boundaries and having the confidence to listen to and stand up for oneself.
You can continue to think that women who don't say "hi" are just shy but, as a woman, I would argue that is not often the case. I'm shy and many of my female friends are shy. But, if we are interested in someone, we communicate that by showing interest. I can't think of anyone I know who is so shy that she would ignore someone she was interested in. If a guy has already talked to her at least once, she then feels comfortable continuing to say hi or chat. Many women will not be the first to initiate conversation because they are shy, but after that first conversation, they will keep the contact moving if they are interested.