You lost a child and grieving has it's own time. I like Emmy's suggestion about a private memorial. I have a tree in my back yard for my daughter. You didn't cause this bad thing to happen. Talk to the baby and tell him/her how you feel and how you loved having him/her inside you and blooming with life. Thank the child for choosing you to experience the joy of pregnancy. Bad things just happens and it's not fair. It is not fair and it's not your fault. My heart reaches to you in your pain so you are not alone.