I am struggling really hard between wanting to make my relationship with my BF last, and wanting physical intimacy with him. I often ask myself if I want the intimacy because I haven't had sex in over 3 years, or because I want to be closer to my BF. Is it lust I'm feeling, or love?

My last relationship fizzled out because we took things at what was seemingly a brisk pace. I don't want my current relationship to follow suit, its just this insatiable craving for wanting more than kissing that I can't seem to shake at the moment.

What is the right thing to do?