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Originally Posted by jo_thorne
I'm a feminist (70s era) and I am not comfortable with the idea of a 27 year old guy who wants to date a 19 year old girl. This is about people in the abstract, though. I have known specific people for whom that age gap worked. And some for whom it didn't, like my college roommate.
I think we all know the arguments against 27 with 19. Girl who's swayed by an older guy who wants to get married and have kids very soon, etc. etc. The guy doesn't *always* do that, but it's a common story and it often backfires down the road when the woman becomes more mature.
If I were a 27 year old guy, I'd be wary of getting seriously involved with a 19 year old woman.
When I was a 19 year old, I thought 27 year old guys were old. I wouldn't have dreamed of going out with one unless maybe it was one of the few guys that age that were in my classes. They hung out with younger people all the time, though, and I basically thought of them as my age.
That's my opinion. I don't call it an argument and if it was, I don't ever know how it could be "won".
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It's funny how you refute your own argument. You say that you would think of 27 year old guys as old, except for the ones you'd actually MET. I think this is quite common. Society has young people convinced that people a few years older than them are a different species, then when they actually meet one of these people, they realize they are just like them. When I was in college, one of my friends was 26-28 and he would hang out with me and my college aged friends. He also dated a 19 year old girl at one point. Now I work with a guy who is 32 and he is friends with all the 22-23 year olds he graduated with who also work with us and his girlfriend is 23.
Just fyi, very few 27 year old guys are in a rush to get married these days. I am certainly not interested in marriage. I actually find that I tend to relate to younger people and the only issue I would have with dating a 19 year old girl is society judging me for it.
My opinion is that it is bigoted for people to judge others because of the age of the person they date.