Update:

Things were going well. We have begun resuming our physically intimate relationship. I was beginning to let go of my feelings of resentment and beginning to enjoy our relationship..........until last night.

I had deleted my Facebook because I got tired of seeing references of this "cousin" and pictures of him as well. My wife knows this. Last night my son was on his Facebook showing me some things and I saw a picture of this "cousin" with his mom and his brother. To top it all off the reason it was on my son's page was because it was "liked" by my wife.

Not sure why this is bothering me so much. I am almost positive she would not have liked this photo if I was still on Facebook. Why can't she just let that part of her so called family go? Instead of telling me "He is part of my family dynamic and you have to deal with it", I want her to say "My husband is really hurting and I want to make him my priority". Why does this guy matter. She once told me that "she grew up with him", does that mean he deserves her in his life forever? She was so angry with me for having a problem with this. She yells "I gave you 16 years of my life and you can't let go of my past!" at me. The way I see it she has given this POS cousin 30 years and continues to put his feelings and the "families" above me. I guess I am just immature. Maybe I am not the right man for her.

These people are not even blood related. What is she holding on to? Her whole family has done nothing but take advantage of her and abuse her but she will always have a loyalty for them above her loyalty for me. Or so it seems that this is the way I see it.

Am I being ridiculous?

Thanks.