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Originally Posted by healingme4me
One thing that crossed my mind, upon reading a response, was the point about your bf's child and telling to change the child or the relationship is over. That'd be a point for me, as a single parent to shut down and build walls. Of course, it's not a child's decision on who their parent is involved with, however, sometimes they are their own people and granted need reminding about who's adult who's child, suddenly there's this nagging feeling like it's the kid or the new partner. Feels icky.
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Things ended up being resolved with me and the child. I favor her mom who abandoned her so she lashed out at me. She was afraid I would steal her only parent. She also struggles with adhd. After some reading and maturing, I learned to see it less as a personal attack on me and my relationship with her changed drastically. I'm not significantly older than the child as her father and I have a 12 year age gap and she and I are 12 years apart. So I struggled with how to be not quite a future step mom but an adult who will be there for her. She gave me a hug and thanked me for not giving up on her a little while ago. I felt like thanking her for teaching me so much about parenting, relationships and myself.