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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Are you in Therapy? If not you should , it would help you learn ways to commnicate maybe in a way the others would understand better?
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Thanks for reading, Christina. Yes, I just started seeing a new therapist. We haven't even gotten to discussing this issue because we're still in the 'collecting backstory' stage. But I'm sure I'll get on this topic soon.
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or if they are still unwilling to step up and be more tidy you can learn ways to work around the fact they are slobs, you are not and how to keep yourself safe.
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I've tried that, and the best I can do is keep the area around my bedroom clean so at least that stays more or less the same. However, even if do this, there's still the rest of the house to deal with, such as kitchen and bathroom.
There's only so much working around I can do against other people's actions, too. If moldy towels sit around too long, it triggers allergies and asthma. If someone leaves a small item on the floor at night, and I walk out of the bedroom to go to the bathroom and step on it, then that can create problems. I may not even feel it, it can cut me, then I'm bleeding (risk of infection, plus more mess). And then there's the psychological effect... I find living in a place that's a mess depressing, and my mood improves at least somewhat if the place I live in is clean.
The psychological side of this is just as important to me as the medical, even though some people might not see it that way. I can get very depressed and there's some history behind why a messy place might be worse for me than others.
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What does the person you love have to say about this situation? Will he/she go around and at least move potential hazards out of the way for you a couple times a day ?
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I think they don't understand why certain things are a problem -- even if I've explained why it is. And that's a problem in itself... I think after a while I get tuned out when it comes to certain things. Including some rather important issues. (This is one reason I think perhaps therapy for both of us is in order.)
They'll move something onnly if they see something as a direct hazard, such as something big blocking a hallway and I need to get past. Usually something that'd be a problem for them, too. Items left on the floor are generally not something they bother with and just step over it. I can't always do that.
And a huge chunk of time, I'm the only person at home all day. If I don't move something in my way, there's no one else here to do it, anyway.
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I suggest you get a cane and when you walk about the place just use the case to push things aside. Sure that isn't going to be a very acceptable solution , But if you can't or won't move , your options are limited.
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Nods. I already have a cane and can do so. I agree my options are limited.
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I'm sorry I hope a sensible solution can be agreed upon with everyone living there.  |
Thanks and thanks for the hug.