My marriage is over with too. I finally accepted my condition real recent which means my alters come out without restraint any more. The Angry Man came out and told my partner everything most of us thought for about a week after a few drinks. Other than the sex maniacs, most of us feel done. It's life can you say. I've wallowed and cried and compromised for years. I'm so done with groveling. Next time we're taking a vote before we hitch up.