Crushed:

I don't believe it's normal progression of a marriage. My husband and I have been married for 10 years (last July) and things are better now than ever in our whole 13 year relationship. I think that it's a big issue what he's told you about being a woman and he recanted and that might have been anything from the real truth to a call for attention, whatever.

I see alot of frustration in your posts, as well, and justifiably so! Maybe the lack of intimacy has to do with the issues from childhood that have brought on the PTSD. I know I had some things happen in childhood that make it hard for me sometimes when they come up. Therapy would definitely be a wise choice at this point. I think it would help both parties, especially being able to get everything out with a mediator there. Just don't hold back. Your feelings on things are just as important as his feelings on thing and the fact that he told you all of this leads me to believe he's confident in your relationship and maybe you should feel the same confidence to open up and tell him that this is going to change everything about your relationship. It takes two to make a marriage work and it takes way more than love to keep a marriage together. You know ?

Well I hope everything works out for you and please keep us posted. Wishing you nothing but the best !!!

Take Care.
Kimberly