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Originally Posted by kaliope
it sounds like you guys already have a friendship. i can understand your insecurity about being the one who initiates the contact but there can be many reasons for that besides the one you are worried about. for me, i never contact anybody. i dont mind talking to people, i am just fearful of making contact that i am bothering people so i never do it. if people want to be friends with me, they have to be the ones contacting me.
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If I have usually been the one doing all of the contacting in a friendship, this gradually makes me pull away. I have been taught that friendship is a two-way street and if someone wants to talk to you, they will make at least some effort in return. I just had an issue with a friend this evening because I feel like, when we hang out, I do all of the inviting. It makes me feel like she just hangs out with me because she feels badly for me, because I've shared info about my MI with her. People like to feel appreciated, and reciprocating in friendship is part of that. I guess in the situation with the ex-coworker, while his lack of contact may not be personal, I would need some reciprocation.