Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for a year, we just had our dating anniversary and I love her very much. I probably wouldn't be here without her. But I am finding that I get really depressed because we have a lot of problems. I am a 25 y/o male and I have a very high sex drive. My girlfriend has very little to no sexual desire and it makes me feel like I'm kind of being "wasted"? because it is a major ordeal to try to get her to have sex (or even lay down and go to bed with me). To be fair though, I work really crappy hours at work (6a-4p) and go to bed really early like 7 or 8pm. So my girlfriend never goes to bed at the same time as me, she lost her job but she doesn't go to sleep until like midnight or 1 am. I do wish she would lay down at the same time and even just cuddle with me. Getting her to have sex is a whole other story.

I hate having to always be the one to initiate. But if I don't, we would never have sex at all because she is fine without it. For her sex is no big deal, to me it is extremely important. I've discussed this with her before and addressed the problem, but she just says, once I get my weight under control we'll have sex more often. However, she doesn't take initiative about things like that, I have to literally feel like I'm being her dad and tell her, you should go to the doctor. But she lost her job because she kept getting robbed repeatedly and attacked physically and I said, that's it, I don't want you working there anymore, so technically I made her quit. Did I mention we have a lot of problems? lol. I just need some advice. I will be staying with her, although we've talked about the possibility of having another partner, but she does get jealous. I don't think that will happen. Although seems like I would need 7 women, one to satisfy me for each day. Women seem to have really low sex drives. Maybe I'm the problem and I'm obsessed with it, but its just something that is important to me, I like to feel good, who doesn't? But to my girlfriend, sex doesn't even feel good to her. Its more pain than pleasure, even when I try to be gentle and do everything correctly. Yeah, we have a lot of problems. Any ideas? Thanks.