I totally understand what you are saying. I feel the same way. I don’t believe in playing games and would rather just be upfront and communicate my needs. I’m dating a guy right now that I really like but I’m not getting what I need out of the relationship (wanting more attention or the feeling that he thinks of me and wants to be with me when I’m not there). I’ve had a conversation with him a couple times about my needs and it really does no good. For whatever reason, men seem to act on challenges and pull away from direct communication.

So I ask, is this a guy thing or are we not valuing ourselves enough as women?

Know you have value and options, know what you want, pick the guy that you love and loves you back. If you aren’t getting what you need, it’s his loss and you should move on.

There are some articles I’ve read that say the less you are available or less interest you show, the harder they’ll try if they really like you. That’s BS in my opinion. Maybe a man can chime in with their thoughts here.

For now, all I can say is hang in there, but value yourself. You deserve to be treated and loved the way that you want, the way that makes you feel satisfied. If he can’t step up to that challenge, then he’s not worth having around.