I think we're in different age groups (I'm 22) so I'm not sure how some people would react to kids, divorce, etc. I wouldn't get involved with someone with kids or who was divorced if they were around my age, but only because it seems young for that sort of thing. If you are older, people should be more understanding and possibly in the same situations. Divorce itself isn't an unattractive quality unless it's happened excessively like snowflake said.

I also agree with Sabau. Find out how you portray yourself to women. I am extremely lonely and have horrible self esteem myself, and I often wonder why no men are attracted to me, etc., but a male friend told me it's because of how I think about myself. I don't really see myself as worthy, I guess, and even though I don't walk up to guys saying "Hi, I'm ugly and stupid, there's no way you'd want to date me" all of those bad things I think about myself "radiate" out of me in a negative way, I guess. It's hard to change.. I don't even know how to change it myself, but you might take that into consideration.

You don't have to be a "bad boy" either. Looks aren't the most important thing, at least to me, as long as you are well groomed, clean, etc. It's hard to say on a broad scale because some people (men and women) are shallow and will reject others based on looks, and even though you know logically that that type of person isn't good to be with, it still hurts, but anyone worth your time won't see those physical things as a priority.

About the lack of taking action, personally I am very shy. I also tend to like shyness in guys, though. This can cause a problem though because I have had experiences with MAJOR communication problems because both of us are too shy to speak up about what we want, and someone (me) ends up getting hurt. You don't have to be all over a girl, but once you feel comfortable with one, don't be afraid to express how you feel.

As for you having a crush, why do you have to move on? Can you pursue this person? If there's some reason why you can't, then I guess you do have to move on, which I don't know the cure for, but maybe if you can pursue her, you should give it a shot? This is a lot longer than I meant to write lol. Anyway, good luck.