direction i think we have spoke about sparks before.. initially there has to be some sort of an attraction and feelings from others cant be forced... i should know lol BUT i think there are alot of quality people out there. I dont think looks matter as it isnt what keeps people around in that relationship. If so then that is shallow. I think you have to feel good about yourself then you will attract what is good for you and that attractiveness that you feel you are lacking will shine thru. keep your chin up and know that people care. We are all lonely in a sense. you are not alone.