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Old Sep 17, 2004, 05:42 AM
Maya Maya is offline
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Basically, I think the problem lies with the other people. Those who have not gone through depression, anxiety, all these other things we go through do not understand "us" - they feel uncomfortable around us (as if, perhaps, we were contagious). I think they are afraid, as well, because they don't understand. I know when I first told people I was taking medication and seeing a therapist some of those folks who I thought would understand suddenly were uncomfortable around me and would no longer look me in the eye - and I have worked in the same place for 33 years! Now, my staff, I am a director in the organization where I work, were great - they could tell if I had missed a pill or was late taking it or needed an additional one - they would yell out, "tell Mary to take her pill!" But the others, the ones who did not see me every day through all of this, treated me differently. It hurts, but it is human nature. We, as human beings, tend to fear what we don't understand - and there is no way anyone could understand depression and panic attacks unless they have experienced one (well, perhaps a therapist - I don't know if mine suffered from something like this before deciding to go into therapy but I suspect a good many psychologists and psychiatrists know firsthand what depression and anxiety really feel like). Anyway - don't worry about those others. There is nothing you can do about other people's attitudes - do you know anyone else who suffers from a similar problem? I have two friends, whom I have known for many years (one for 15 years, one for 8 years) who also suffer from anxiety and depression and are on medication like me. That gives me two people to talk to and really connect with over what is going on with me. One of them is one of my employees who literally saved me from checking myself into a hospital last year by taking off work with me and driving me around, stayed with me through it all, and got me started with my therapist and on medication. The other friend lives out of the country and we email and I call her as often as I can as she has no support down there. But that is enough about me - I just wanted to say, you are not alone - you have many people on this forum who honestly do care (and who look forward to reading your posts because they make a difference in our lives) and those friends you had just don't understand and, as one other poster said, they need to grow up. Take care of yourself - you are needed on this forum!
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