Transference? I've never heard of such a thing. You'll have to ask someone else. LOL

As far as the transference you are experiencing with this other person who is not your T.... it is totally normal to want to get rid of your transference, but keep it at the same time. Transference often comes about because of feelings and connections that we are missing... why wouldn't we want to keep it around? But at the same time, it can get too intense, messy, be towards the wrong person, etc. The only way for you to get through this is to work through the transference... and even though it is not towards your T in this instance, you can still work through it with your T. Plus, you might be suprised, once you start working through, that parts of it do include your T.

I don't believe that transference can be created or re-created. It manifests from the unconscious.. Soooo, although it can't be created purposely, it can be pulled out... what I'm saying is that by working through transference with your T-- even if it starts by talking about your transference towards someone else-- you will begin to pull into consciousness-- transference towards your T.

One cool thing about transference is that it's not always about a specific person. You know, we tend to think we are transferring person A, B, or C onto our Ts.. but a lot of the time we are transferring our general interpersonal relationship patterns.

You are right-- transference comes from our needs... and our patterns. And it will always be different, depending on the therapist.