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Old Mar 19, 2015, 09:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Shadix View Post
I have these two coworkers, a guy and a girl, whom I met in training class and started talking to. They sit at the table right behind me with their backs to me. At first, they were pretty friendly. The girl in particular would often turn around and scoot her seat over and ask what I am up to. I would often turn around and talk to them too. But recently I have noticed that they have stopped being friendly. For those of you who read my previous posts, I started noticing this before the coffee machine incident. When I turn around and start talking to them, they will talk to me, but basically if I don't, they will literally not say anything to me for the whole day. But they still socialize with each other and the two guys who sit in front of them. Speaking of which, another thing I noticed is that whenever I turn around and start talking to them, the two guys sitting in front of them, who are facing my direction, seem to be giving me dirty looks. One of them's is giving me a look at that says "ugh what does he want now" and the other one is giving me a look that says "shut up and turn around already". What's odd is hat I haven't really even talked to those guys. I don't know if it's just in my head but that's the vibe I'm getting and it makes me uncomfortable.

The only thing I can think of that could have made them dislike me are asking stupid questions. But I usually do this because I don't know what else to say. The alternative would be to be quiet and unfriendly. Other than that, I am wondering if maybe some people just have awkward mannerisms which make people dislike them and I am one of those people? I have heard people saying things to this effect about other people. But like in the gym situation, I am confused about what I should be doing. I feel weird about not talking to them because there is a chance that I somehow gave off the impression that I am unfriendly and this would only reinforce that. But I feel really uncomfortable talking to people who may be annoyed by me.
It is unpleasant situation but you can ask them what is wrong and why they are looking at you like this? Be direct. Or, as you described their looks, you make your own look which will say f*** you . Why would you even care. There must be some people who like you and you can have them as friends.
Thanks for this!
Shadix