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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
I don't find it pathetic at all. It's tough when a thread gets closed, even if it's the right thing for that thread. And I think it's ok -- and great -- that you are deriving so much strength from the support you're getting here.
I had a termination issue a while back -- NOTHING like yours, but still rather traumatizing -- and being here helped a lot. What I'm wondering is, do you accept PMs from other members? If so, maybe you can establish (just by asking in this thread maybe) people you might be able to PM in the event of something like a thread getting closed?
PMing with people in a similar situation to mine was sometimes a godsend for me, and I know I've been able to be there for others in the past via PM. Unfortunately I'm on here really sporadically now, so I'm not a great person to contact... the last thing I'd want is for you to send me a message, then have me leave you hanging for a week because I didn't log on here. But I am certain there are others you could reach out to, especially those who know you better.
You're doing great, and you can do this!
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Many people have offered PM'ing, some even further contact. I have been tempted to take them up on the offer. But I also have fears. I'm not ready to take any relationships, even online, to a new level. PM'ing doesn't seem like a big step, but it is for me. I don't have the strength to figure out new boundaries or how to balance it out. I worry about becoming a burden or there being a miscommunication. There are a few people I will PM if needed, but those boundaries have been understood for a few months now. And even with them, I only reach out if there is a real need.
I'm just afraid of relationships and letting anyone new in.
I hope that doesn't hurt anyone's feelings. It's just that I prefer to be as much of an equal in a relationship as I can be, and right now I don't have much to give back. Even continuing to reach out here is new for me. I have reached out for help with other things, yes, but nothing to this magnitude. I'm feeling really vulnerable and fragile right now and don't want to be out exploring new things unless I absolutely have to.