Why is it there seems to be a cavern of misunderstanding between mothers and daughters? I had it with my mother and now, I'm in it with my daughter.

She thinks everything I do and/or say is a putdown for her. I don't know how to explain it...I guess, she views every act on my part as directly related to her somehow.

I can never say the right thing, or say it the right way, or have the right look on my face when I say it.

She's leaving for London next week. I've supported her financially for the last 8 months. I've given her money for her trip. I've offered to take care of her dog while she's gone. She doesn't consider my supporting her as doing something out of the kindness of my heart. She sees it as my duty. She will be 22 in 6 months.

About her dog, she wants to make it as easy as possible on her doggie daycare provider so she told me tonight that I can see the dog on weekends. Oh, btw, I have to buy the flea medicine every month and pay any vet bills that may come up.

I love my daughter dearly, but I don't think she will appreciate me until she's 40. Why do we do that? I was just beginning to appreciate my own mother and she died before we could work it all out. Why, why, why???

Life is too short, way too short. I wish I knew then what I know now. I guess I didn't get smart enough, quick enough. It doesn't look like my daughter will either.

Sorry this is so long. If you read this far into it, I sincerely thank you.
As always,
Okie