Scarlet, despite all the pain and confusion and angst in your relationship with ex-T, you are showing remarkable healing.

Every day, going through your motions, keeping your scheduled commitments, positive self-talk, coping skills, goals, backup strategy, you got it all covered!

For someone who "needs a higher level of care" and "isn't making any progress" in individual therapy, you certainly internalized a lot of life skills.

I'm proud of you, your awesome strength and perseverance in this extremely hard time, and I feel certain you will find even more healing the more time you have apart from ex-T.

You see these things, you're aware of them, but I bet you downplay them to yourself. I do it too. My T makes me keep an accomplishment journal, and even if it's just one entry every day, eventually you have a huge list of things you did right. It's affirming, on the days the little voice in my head tries to belittle me, I have proof that voice is a big fat liar pants!

These posts are your accomplishments and you can re-read them any time you feel doubt creeping in. Sure, the responses are helpful, but the true power in these threads comes from you.