I have ready your story and the responds to your story. I have lived your story also. Do not loose what you have worked so hard on for his sorry butt. You are a great person for the load you have carried and you are still carrying. He has issues and it is issues you can not work out for him are you would have already worked them out. I left my wasband the end of June over this same stuff. I felt like I could have dropped dead and he would have just kicked me to the curb and kept going. He probably would not have even called anyone either. No lie. I gave him everything in the divorce because I have everything I need. Now I'm not telling you to do that, this was just what I chose to do. He would not sign divorce papers at first. Then 2 days after him receiving them he started dating someone new. 2 weeks later he agreed to sign them. He was always so sick he couldn't help with just small things around the house. He only worked about 4 hours a day and would not do anything but play games on the computer the rest of the time. I worked 10 hours a day and would walk in the door and wanted to know what was for supper. Now when we met I explained I could cook but did not like to cook. He cooked when we dated. But I even did the cooking for 8 months, then it was something else I wasn't doing. I finally had to give up. They just wasn't enough hours in the day to get everything done to make him happy. But now he can stay out all night with this new girl and he not that sick any more. So talk to a lawyer and get advice on what to do. I was told from him I moved out so I had to pay for the divorce. I did, but we see who is dating now and moving on with their life. Which I think that is why he treated me so bad to try and run me off. But I didn't want the marriage to be a failure because of me. But I c an truly look back and say that wasn't anything I could have done to make it any difference. I had started collage when we met and I finished my degree. I have opened my own grooming business and moving into my 4 year. I have been in couslin since July. He says he is just a bad person. But I will tell you this when you love someone and you put everything into it to make it work, it doesn't not make it hurt any less when you go through the divorce. Try to get finish with your degree before starting it. I have up day, down days, and days I just want to die. Take care of your self and go after your goals. He doesn't sound like he cares about your well being. I'm sorry if I'm to hassle but all of this has really took a told on me and me moving forward in my life. I sure hope you handle it a lot better than I have. I hope this will help. If you have question please feel free to friend me. I would like to be here for you. I haven't had anyone going through all of this and I am about to go crazy.