Sounds like you two would be better off as friends - if you think feelings have cooled enough for both of you to the point that you could have a friendship. Give it time if you're not there yet. I'm not saying it's always best for people to be friends after break ups, but it could potentially work for you two. You're the best judge of that. If your ex bf has ADHD and is dealing with sexual orientation issues he could use a good friend. Meanwhile, you need to take good care of yourself - a break up is no excuse. Learn from the mistakes of this relationship and move on. Good luck!