(((((((((((((Dave)))))))))))))))))

I know how you feel about what happened at your old workplace. Mine was similar. Where I used to work, my manager (VP and Director of H.R) was so cruel and deceitful. (I'm not going into details now because if I start, I can't stop ).

I spoke up for myself only to get into more trouble (ie. penalized in my performance review, put on probation - after 6 yrs of service, verbal abuse, etc.) Writing a letter to the CEO didn't help either. I ended up getting a lawyer to help me out (man, they were expensive). I had a bad breakdown and took short term disability while getting therapy in the hospital.

Lots of people in the office told me they felt bad for me, etc. etc. - like you said, lip service - but not 1 stood up for me. They were 'ok' while I was there, but they didn't bother to stay in contact when I left. Were they real friends? I doubted that.

I was very angry with the manager and everyone else for a long time. It's been almost 3 yrs now, and I still get mad.

I know it doesn't help much to say I care and want to help, (and I'm not giving you any 'lip' - I live too far), but I hope you find some comfort in the people here.

You're in my thoughts. Please take care. Huggles.