Hi connect.the.stars

This can be a difficult situation to manage.

I believe that you certainly did make your intentions to this person clear the moment they started to confess their feelings to you, which is an honest thing for you to have done.

You're looking at some suggestions.

One might be to be upfront (if you aren't already this is) and from the start let them know you're not looking for a relationship thing, if this is what you feel, so at least you've "put it out there".

You're a likable person and I can see how you would make friends quite easily.

I guess its hard really when they really like you for them to just "shut off" initially after they've started to feel some feelings towards you.

Well the email months later does not really make much sense in my opinion.

This is because even if this was a "friend" relationship well a relationship takes two people to make it work .... so where during this long duration was the person on the other end who was not keeping contact, if this is what they wanted? I'm just thinking that this works two ways really.

What is a good friend?

You were honest the moment you realised your friend may be developing feelings towards you.

If it's not something you want to get worked up about .... you could always consider the option of blocking them from your email if they harrass you months later about lack of contact and this does not make you feel comfortable .... although I can understand that this option may be challenging ...... if you want to remain friends

Well you are not awful for not wanting a relationship.

This is where you are at.

You're honest.

You can't change what you need in your life right now.

They are just disappointed really which is probably why they resort to calling you awful. Which isn't right.

Hang in there.