I think it's important to let her know how this makes you feel and to clear up her intentions. The one I see now told me early on that she wants to make it easy for me to leave because I've stayed too long with therapists who weren't good for me. Even so, it was hard not to hear it as a rejection, so we dealt with it right there and it didn't come up again. She really was just trying to make sure I knew I was the one in control, not her.

Also, let your therapist know that your throat closes up like that and you can't talk even though you want to. That might help her read your silences a little more accurately.