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Old Mar 20, 2015, 01:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon View Post
Have you processed about whatever happened in high school? Like talked to the therapist? Maybe if you're able to get through the trauma it will make you feel more comfortable with the idea of your orientation? I think you brought it up twice so it must be a big thing that happened to you. Trauma can mess with your association of being gay and cause you to feel that negatively towards your orientation. That's why I would work on it. Especially if your first experience was that horrible.
Well, there was more to it, after high school-- I'm uncomfortable revealing the details due to the sensitive nature of what happened. But it was a highly emotionally abusive (and that goes two ways-- we were terrible to each other) relationship between me and that person. I've talked to a therapist about it in great depth and he was good, for a psychotherapist-- he, like many other people in my life assured me that what happened wasn't as huge a deal as I often make it out to be-- which to an extent is true. But in general, I don't talk about the person in question and even hearing their name spoken (even if it's of someone else of the same name) is a huge trigger. The last time someone said his name, just in casual conversation, not even referring to the actual person but someone of the same name, I wound up inpatient at the hospital for five days.

The therapist I saw, who I wish I was still able to see (my insurance ran out and now it would be 400 USD per session) was very good, and specialized in LBGTQ issues and was trained in EMDR and a variety of other techniques and even agreed to look at things from my Jungian point of view to an extent but sadly my current insurance doesn't cover his treatment. He did tell me that I was suffering from something called C-PTSD, "complex post traumatic stress disorder," which I found interesting. But like I said, sadly I can't see him, right now because I cannot afford it.
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