Llleeeee, i think and hope i understand. It is amazing how different we all are. If an offer or invitation like that were made to me I would immediately believe i was being told to get out.

If i am being quiet i am fighting so hard to get an answer out that my body and mind says should be kept inside and i wish my t would just repeatedly ask our keep pushing until i get it forced out. Telling me i have the option to leave would be telling me to quit wasting his time and i am useless like that. Even when he says is OK and to think about it and moves on, that is now still just stick inside. My silence would never be a signal of wanting to leave.

We share so many similarities and differences here. We have to have compassion on our T's imagining what it must be like knowing each person could take the exact same action or words he/she makes and it could be taken as attacking and insulting by some and needed, wanted and necessary by another. Wow