I agree with Pbutton... I started out every other week too. It was actually really good for me initially, because I really wasn't sure that I wanted to be in therapy, and wasn't sure about my therapist (or "that guy!" as I thought of him! )

Weekly starts to feel like a normal pattern, like part of your week, and gives you more time to get used to each other, and less time to try to remember the feeling of being cared about and connected. With two weeks, it felt impossible to hold on to any image or memory of my T. It's still been tough with 1 week, but... I'm getting there. Slowly.

So, I'd say first off - go ahead and talk to him about getting a weekly session. You have absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of, as weekly is pretty standard for most folks. Heck, some people go multiple times a week! I think it can only help you!

Second, I think you need to get some clarification from him on what he meant when he said that you don't have to do this. What was he trying to say? I think that we, out here in the digital world, can guess, but it would be best to find out what he was thinking. I've had a LOT of experiences where I've thought somebody (T or someone else) meant something, and when I asked them, I found out they meant something totally different.

This is also pretty normal (in my experience) therapy conversation, so nothing to worry about or be uncomfortable with! He'll probably welcome the chance to explain (if he remembers, after 2 weeks, my T doesn't tend to remember things he was saying! Yikes!)

My *guess*, if I had to make one, was that he was concerned that you were pushing yourself too hard, that you were in a bad place and re-traumatizing yourself by pushing forward (maybe?). Maybe he wanted to make sure that you feel in control, and that you can choose how much to share.

Does he have experience dealing with trauma? That might be a good thing to check with him before you go too much farther... just to be sure that he feels competent to help you with the bigger stuff.

As far as communicating better in therapy... I *wish* I knew. I think, especially with trauma-issues, our brains just shut down or get overwhelmed easily. I was trying to talk to my T last week about something that a) he already knows about! and b) doesn't feel like a big deal to me. And I literally could not. Couldn't get the words out. We even tried some grounding exercises (we tossed a ball back and forth, fun!) which helped me feel present and comfortable, for about 3 seconds, until we tried talking again and my entire brain just *shut down* and refused to generate language.

I can not tell you how much this sucked, and how frustrating it is. But I have a sneaking suspicion that maybe it's part of the process... and that we just need to be patient, and keep showing up and doing the work? I hope so anyway!

Good luck, and for the record, it doesn't sound like it's time to quit yet, to me at least!